Sex and Violence Sell, But What's The Limit?

Are you fed up? Are you willing to act?

Four South Florida teenagers were arrested this month after reportedly taking turns raping an unconscious woman in a hotel at an after prom party.

Children subconsciously believe images and behaviors we allow on screens are acceptable, normal or (heaven forbid) “cool.” Clearly, our social norms and behaviors are impacted by advertising, movies, video games, etc. For example, studies have shown that when teens are regularly exposed to repeated violence while playing video games, they are more likely to demonstrate aggressive behavior.

Generations of drug prevention supporters and Joe’s Stone Crab enthusiasts united to celebrate Informed Families/The Florida Family Partnership’s 31^st Annual Dinner at Joe’s Stone Crab on Monday, May 16^th.  Following the generations theme, the illustrious event was co-chaired by generous philanthropists Nancy & Jon Batchelor and Anna & Jon Batchelor, Jr. Close to $200,000 was raised to support Informed Families’ statewide prevention programs and initiatives designed to help kids grow up safe, healthy and drug free.

Over 400 guests attended the dinner, which was complete with local celebrity sightings, a pre-dinner social and of course Joe’s signature stone crabs, coleslaw, hash browns, key lime pie and legendary service. Several attendees who haven’t missed a Joe’s dinner were recognized with a special pin to commemorate their commitment to Informed Families and helping kids grow up safe, healthy and drug free.

Some notable event attendees include: State Attorney Katherine Fernandez Rundle, Tammy & (Coach) Butch Davis, Jeff & Meg Wright, Dale Chapman Webb, Dorothy & Aaron Podhurst, Mary & Joel Eaton, Judge Robert Luck, Margarita & Armando Codina, Judge Norma & Eugene Lindsey, Dr. Larry Feldman, Penny Shaffer, Anita & Ron Shuffield, Ruth & Steve Marcus, Ginger Mead, Susan & Robin Shelley, Sherri & Doug Bartel and Judge Jason Bloch.

“Each year, we benefit from an outpouring of generosity from families who care about helping kids grow up safe, healthy and drug free,” said Informed Families/The Florida Family Partnership President & CEO Peggy Sapp. “As a founder of the organization, it’s inspiring to see many of our supporters passing down the message to the next generation. This year, we honored those families.”

Aside from Informed Families, the big winner of the night was Steve Calderon, who won the grand raffle prize: dinner for 20 guests at Joe’s Stone Crab restaurant. 

Informed Families Thanks The Following Generous Event Sponsors:

Diamond Claw Sponsors: Peter L. Bermont, Richard B. Bermont, Adam E. Carlin, Michael D. Gold; EWM Realty International/Christie’s International Real Estate; Health Foundation of South Florida

Pearl Claw Sponsors: Nancy Batchelor Team and Gulliver Schools

Valet Sponsor: Coral Gables Trust Company

Sapphire Claw Sponsors: Avison Young; Dale Carnegie Training; Tammy & Butch Davis; Ginger Mead; Podhurst Orseck, P.A.

Silver Claw Sponsors: Betty B. Chapman, Dale Chapman Webb, Kristy Webb Figueras; Codina Partners; Fowler White Burnett, P.A.; The Garner Family Foundation; Goldsmith Family Foundation; Grossman Roth Yaffa Cohen; JMH Development; Robert M. Levy & Associates; Markham & Stein; Police Officer Assistance Trust; Dr. Andrea Heuson-Sharp & Dr. Greg Sharp; Dr. Linda Neider & Dr. Paul Sugrue; Rick & Margarita Tonkinson; TUUCI

Invitation Sponsor: Jack & Natasha Lowell

Gift Sponsor: Mercedes-Benz of Coral Gables

Friends of Joe's: Peggy Sapp; Village of Miami Shores Police Department

Special thanks to our long-time supporters, Baptist Health South Florida and Florida Blue.

Melanie Williams, a mother of four and an active PTSA volunteer in Orlando, wants to do everything she can to protect her children and others in the community from the devastating consequences associated with drug abuse and addiction.

“Drug prevention is so important because drug abuse is so silently dangerous,” said Williams. “It’s easy for kids to get involved with drugs and it’s so damaging to the body; it destroys lives.”

Williams, a mother of four boys ages 10, 13, 15 and 16, became involved with Informed Families after being invited by a school guidance counselor to attend an Informed Families Parent Peer Group Leader training in Orange County last November.  

“The material at the training was mind boggling,” said Melanie. “I learned so much. I’m an involved parent with kids in three different schools. And yet some of the stuff from the training, I really had no clue about. I asked my 16-year-old son, ‘do you know about this?’ He said, ‘yes.’ Attending the training was truly transformative for me. I realized that I need to pay more attention to what my children are learning and what they are exposed to.”

Common Myths Masquerading As Common Sense

“Underage drinking is a harmless rite of passage.”

Really? Is that so?

“Teaching my child to drink will lead to moderation in the future.”

Ever heard one of these?

“I drank and smoked pot in my youth and lived to tell the tale. My child will too.”

Ever believed it?

“If it’s prescribed by a doctor, it’s harmless.”

Are common myths masquerading themselves as common sense? If enough people around you are saying the same thing, whether it’s true or false, do you start to question your own judgment, knowledge?

“If my child 'parties' and still gets good grades, he/she doesn’t have a problem.”

Our Safe Homes Smart Parties campaign aims to inform and empower parents of underage youth to set guidelines around springtime parties to ensure that drugs and alcohol are not present or tolerated. We know that underage drinking is responsible for 4,300 deaths and 189,000 emergency room visits each year. This isn’t make believe.

“Marijuana is a plant so it’s not harmful or addictive. It’s natural.”

According to extensive research (22 studies) published in the Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs, “parental provision was generally associated with increased adolescent alcohol use and, in some instances, increased heavy episodic drinking as well as higher rates of alcohol-related problems.”

There Is Nothing New Under The Sun

First Lady Nancy Reagan, who passed away last week, tirelessly dedicated her time and energy, during her husband’s presidency in the 1980’s, to shine a light on the nation’s drug problem.

Her “Just Say No” message originated during an event in Atlanta where a child asked her what to do if someone offered her drugs. Reagan replied with the now famous response and the media picked it up. While we can all agree that it’s not easy to say “no” and the latest prevention science provides us with more comprehensive and effective ways to educate and inspire children to make healthy choices, the message was clear: our children have a right to grow up safe, healthy and drug free – and we have the responsibility to make that happen.   

At the time, some people heard the message, some people didn’t hear the message and others didn’t like the message. The same is true today. There is nothing new under the sun. Scientists continue to identify dangers of marijuana use, states who have legalized it are seeing a rapid increase in use among youth – and yet, the legalization trend is not slowing down. Prescription drug use and heroin use are epidemics we can no longer ignore.

Below is a formal statement from Informed Families and the National Family Partnership mourning the loss of our friend Nancy Reagan. We appreciate all of her support over the years. We also appreciate and thank each of you, our readers and supporters, for your dedication to helping kids grow up safe, healthy and drug free.

Peggy

It’s never too early to promote safe, healthy and drug free living for kids. Just ask Ambassador and early childhood specialist Jacynta House, who serves as director of the Beautiful Mindz Preschool in Miami Gardens.

“I think everyone needs prevention education,” said House. “If we educate children when they are young, they will be less likely to do drugs. My goal as an early childhood educator is to give children the best life possible.”

When asked whether she thought that children in preschool are too young to be exposed to drug prevention, Jacynta quickly replied with a definitive “no.”

“They see drug abuse everywhere because our school is in a low income, high crime environment,” said House. “Every morning, I have to clean the playground because there are bags and wrappers everywhere from drug use. I want our children to seek a different, healthier life for themselves.”

Many of the students who attend the preschool have parents who work long hours, some of whom pick up their children as late as 8pm, and many come from insecure home environments. Jacynta dedicates herself to creating a stable and safe learning environment for these young children, ages zero to five, every day.

Informed Families Is About Drug Prevention, Not Drug Abuse

Please repeat this 7 times and then ask, “What’s the difference?” “How do I learn Prevention?”

After several phone calls from friends and family telling me to make sure I watched “Chasing Heroin” on Frontline, I tuned in and now I’m asking you to please watch “Chasing Heroin” on Frontline.  It will definitely debunk a lot of myths that society has created about who uses drugs, why they use drugs and how people get out of addiction.

Actually, Informed Families could have written the show; several of the speakers are professional colleagues and good friends. I’ve served on both The White House Office of Drug Control Policy (ONDCP) and National Institute of Drug Abuse at NIH.  I have tremendous respect for Dr. Tom McLellan, a great researcher and former head of Demand Reduction at The White House ONDCP.  Tom is great person and parent when he levels and admits that all the researchers still don’t know where to send a kid when he/she has a drug problem. Tom lost a son to drugs.  Hats off to the brilliant Dr. Nora Volkow, head of NIDA, when she says, “no one has all the answers about the brain.”

Goldsboro Elementary Magnet School in Sanford, Florida struck gold when they recruited Wing Isom to join the school’s Parent Teacher Association (PTA) over seven years ago. Now, Isom serves as the school’s PTA President and more recently, she has taken on a new role: Informed Families Ambassador.

Calling Isom “an involved parent” is a vast understatement – and calling her an average Informed Families Ambassador would be equally incorrect. Since the fall of 2015, in her short time as an Informed Families Ambassador, Isom has delivered all three Informed Families campaigns (Family Day™, Red Ribbon Week®, and Lock Your Meds®) with great thought, energy and enthusiasm to the children and families at Goldsboro Elementary.

“We all talk about issues facing our children, but I love doing something about them,” said Wing. “As an Informed Families Ambassador, I connect parents at our school with wonderful prevention resources and I try to do it in a way that works best for our particular school.”